Raymond Pantoja

Raymond “RJ” Pantoja was remembered by family and friends as a loving father, a hopeful musician, and a cheerful presence whose smile lit a room. He cherished his daughter Joanna above all and often spoke tenderly to those he loved. In his music he performed as Hommi, hoping one day to reach others with his words and voice. He loved basketball, video games and quiet time with the people closest to him.

Those who knew RJ recalled a gentle, affectionate habit: he often told family, “If no one told you I love you today, I love you.” His mother, Lisa Espinosa, described him as the person who helped her turn her life around — a relationship she called a lifesaving bond. That close family connection was reflected in small keepsakes his daughter and loved ones still treasure.

Raymond’s life was cut short on April 10, 2016. In the months that followed, his family—especially his mother—worked tirelessly to honor his memory and to seek answers. Lisa’s advocacy on behalf of her son also grew into broader anti-violence efforts, as she spoke publicly and supported other families affected by loss.

Those who loved RJ remember him for his warmth, his laugh, and his devotion to family. He is survived by his daughter Joanna, his mother Lisa Espinosa, and other family members who keep his memory alive through stories, music, and the everyday acts of care he treasured. His life mattered to those who knew him, and his music and loving words continue to be a part of the memory he left behind.