Melissa Dake

Melissa Lynn Dake was a Tulsa resident who, by public record, was 35 years old at the time of her passing on November 23, 2013. Public sources identify Melissa as the wife of Charlie Dean (Charlie) Dake Jr.; the two are listed together among those who died that evening. Beyond those basic facts, available public records and contemporary news coverage provide only limited personal detail.

What is clear from reliable accounts is that Melissa was part of a household in north Tulsa where family and community connections mattered. News reports from late November 2013 identify her by name and age and place her among the people whose deaths that night left family, friends, and neighbors searching for answers and grieving. Local coverage and later cold-case references note the profound impact the event had on those connected to the home and on the wider Tulsa community.

Because no published, family-authorized obituary matching Melissa Lynn Dake’s exact name and the November 23, 2013 date of death could be located in funeral-home or obituary archives, many personal details that families customarily share—memories of personality, work, hobbies, children, or education—do not appear in the public record available to researchers. That absence does not diminish the reality of Melissa’s life or the loss felt by those who loved her; rather, it constrains what can be responsibly written about her with confidence.

This remembrance honors Melissa by acknowledging the person behind the name in public records: someone who lived in Tulsa, who was part of a household and relationships that mattered to others, and whose life was cut short. She is memorialized here with respect for the limits of publicly available information and with a recognition that families and friends hold the fuller, living memory of who she was. If family-authorized remembrances or additional reliable sources become available, they should be used to expand this tribute so Melissa’s full life and character can be more completely and lovingly recorded.